I guess we should consider ourselves lucky. Way back in the beginning (when we warred with the other offshoot of humanity called the Neanderthal) our life expectancy was about 30 years. We could expect death by disease, predation, or being murdered by our fellow man…
Now we can expect to die from natural wear and tear. I'm pretty sure our maximum life expectancy under the most optimal conditions is around 125 years.
So why do I think 40 is old? Well… I actually think 35 is old. After that age any attempt at having children has a greater risk of that child having a deformity or two… There's some research somewhere that suggests that old men who attempt to have children at 70 have a high chance at having children with dwarfism.
Ugh… my father keeps urging me to get married. And it doesn't matter who. Unfortunately, my chance has passed for that. What woman of childbearing age and in her right mind would marry a 40+ year old guy who isn't very rich and well off?
Or maybe I just feel older than I should if I'm going to think that way…
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Lonnehart wrote: So why do I think 40 is old? Well… I actually think 35 is old. After that age any attempt at having children has a greater risk of that child having a deformity or two… There's some research somewhere that suggests that old men who attempt to have children at 70 have a high chance at having children with dwarfism.What is wrong with dwarfism? They make for excellent subject matter in Velasquez's Baroque paintings and it can lead to a career starring in Game of Thrones. I once went to a bar in Manilla in the Philippines called "Hobbit House" where every employee was a little person and it was Tolkien themed.
Ugh… my father keeps urging me to get married. And it doesn't matter who.
The age factor seems more pressing for women than men because there is a biological reason to have children early. You are thinking about this at forty-two, I can vouche for myself when I say women begin thinking this way much earlier, like twenty-two. Younger women have much more options. By the time a woman has reached a certain age, the dating pool gets smaller. Men are like wine, age is not a deal breaker and the dating pool generally remains the same.
I had no idea men were pressured by their parents to get married, too! Also that they do not stop until it happens.
Huahh~Lucky me, I don't have to care about age differences when dating~
I don't want any children anyway soooo~ saucy
My first boyfriend was 18 years older than me, kinda makes age gaps not be an issue anymore.
Though from experience, older doesn't always mean wiser .__.
As for parents pressing for marriage weirdness, yeah…my mom's been doing that recently .__.
it makes me nervous.
Lonnehart wrote:
What woman of childbearing age and in her right mind would marry a 40+ year old guy who isn't very rich and well off?
Do you remember Hyena Hell? She's a very attractive punky sorta gal that used to be around the forums a lot a few years ago, did a great black and white inked comic called "the Hub".
Anyway, her partner is 50+, he's not rich or well off, QUITE the opposite, not even especially handsome. She's a good looking young woman herself in her late 20s, talented, amazingly intelligent and well educated.
So age doesn't really matter that much Lonne. It's just about how much you like someone, the interests you share etc.
As for potential health problems of potential kids- you cross that bridge when and if you come to it.
@hippie-
You can fill in the meaning yourself there :)
Anyway, what I meant was interests that aren't too imaginative and fairly typical… Kawaii outlines the soprt of thing I mean… But you know those sorts of men who seem to only be able to talk about watching sport on TV, going fishing, playing golf, fixing their car, their mortgage, their children in school, their drinking, what was on TV last night… kill me now -_-
And women who mainly talk about their children, cooking, what as on TV last night, the current popular novel (50 shades of grey etc), their medical iissues…
Fine, I GET people need to talk about common interests and those are common because they're either simple societal expectations or they're imitated from their parents, or influenced by other friends, or they're things that are common because we're all human (kids, medical, food), but that's also what limits their being that interesting. I'd rather know about the unusual things people do, their special interests, their hobbies, the things that aren't common.
I've come to believe that buying a house is what makes people dull. :P When someone starts talking about baseboards I completely shut down.
The other day I was studying in Starbucks and ended up leaving because the women next to me talked about bathroom renovations for a solid hour an I just couldn't stand it any more.
Also, I miss Hyena Hell. One of the best artists DD ever had, I think. Not to mention a really nice person.
Hahaha! Banes has a new house now and he's renovating the bathroom! ^_^
But he's gussying it up for renting and doesn't talk about the details, just the fact that he's doing it. I think the difference is that he has wider interests so he doesn't obsess like other people tend to do.
I wish HH were around again too! Glad Katch is back though :)
Hyena Hell moved back to New Orleans, her jobs don't pay as much there so she hasn't got the free time or the energy for comics that she had while in North Carolina. Their money goes to paying rent and paying to support the huge family of dogs they own
I stayed with her and her partner Marek for a week back in 2011 at their house in New Orleans.
-She has a much deeper voice than you'd expect!
The trick is to push a ahead and keep building on the bones of the old stuff.
It feels fresher to toss out older stuff and start new or do new versions of it, but you get better and build up a more impressive body of work by sticking with stuff I find.
That way you build up a real history and a timeline in the work, as well as giving your work a preseance on the web that you can only get through time.
Did someone say rennovations to the house … where to start … Tiles, tiles everywhere. So many tiles … pale terracotta coloured sandstone tiles with underfloor heating. New kitchen … lovely white cupboards and black granite benchtop, even one of those cool corner cupboards where the shelves swivel out in a figure eight motion so you can use all the space in the corner. And the tap … with extending swivelhead motion and spray setting. Finally the spice rack has arrived, so we're putting that up this weekend inside walk-in pantry. Exciting stuff. Then to finish the tiling of the 'hallway' (it's an open-plan, split level house, so hallway is the wrong description really … cat-walk almost), and then we can finish the room down the bottom by installing the luthier's workbench and storage shelves. Oh, I could just go on and one about our home rennovations … and I will another time (mwah, ha hah!), but I need to make another cup of home-roasted, organic, fair-trade, shade-grown, hand-picked by a collective of Mayan farmers, home-blended coffee … and then take some photos of Playmobil having sex.
Age. there's a random thread on it.
I don't think the issue is age (outside the physical realm - cuz there's an unavoidable reality there) as much as it is flexibility. I can flex and so it's easier for me to deal with change, even if that means: fuck off. Flexing is not a widespread talent at any age, but your pegged as "old" if you racked up some years and can't flex. rather disingenuous, that.
Interests? Interests will change over time - and it doesn't have to be much time. But it's control that's always the pull. At age 2, most folks start finding control entirely appealing. And it doesn't take long to see that money = some ability for control. But money is a double-edged sword: true - the more you have, the more buying options you have, but then the more you're occuppied with keeping the money because there's always someone else who thinks they have dibs: government, charities, family members (read: kids). I don't have so much that there's too much grief for me. That, and I have a very convincing scowl when need be. And then there's the death voice.
Another thing, still in line with flex, is: What are you learning? If you haven't tried something new and personally challenging within the last 12 months, you're in a rut. and you're not aging well, however old you are. (I recommend Duolingo, if you want to try learning a new language).
I've had to write thesis papers. I've had a variety of jobs. I've raised kids. I've done home improvements. Lotso hobbies. Hands down, kids are the most challenging. rewarding. interesting. exhausting. If you don't regularly hang out at some point with some one a decade younger than you, then you have no perspective to judge people a decade older than you. imo. And if you don't tend to something that needs tending (family members; pets; gardens) – something Alive, then you are looking at the world only through a set of very ME-blinkers. Your perspective is a one in 7.078 billion (according to Wikipedia). Not much cred there, but - hey - maybe you're that discordant, Jesus-like voice we've all been waiting for.
To age or not to age. What's your option? Isn't there only one? I say go for the aging, but try to keep every muscle as flexible as you can.
oh - and if you bore someone: Really - is that a concern? The lovely thing with aging is that "oh dear - am I boring?" becomes less of a concern the more you rack up the experiences.
I know there are some ducks older than me (tho' not bravo - right, kid?), but I gotta tell you, keep those physical/mental/emotional muscles as well flexed as you can, and the world will always offer more marvels to embrace.
It's lovely.
Oh no…I finished all the episodes of Marple on Netflix without realizing it. Just decided to watch one to relax because I don't have another exam until Monday, and they were all gone. : (
So I don't know if I'm getting girlier or just growing into myself, but I've suddenly started to like wearing dresses and skirts and stuff. Two years ago I didn't own a single dress.
@Katch: My bunnies look a bit like your cartoon bunnies! I have a black one and a white one.
@Hippie
This was my beautiful Rabbit friend, she is definitely one of the greatest friends I have ever had the chance to meet in this life. I once saw a Black rabbit in the pet shop, we made eye contact for a short time. I would get a black rabbit one day and name it either The Black Rabbit of Inle, Blackavar or Campion. You named your rabbits Romeo and Juliet? That is so sweet!
Whenever I am asked if I am a dog or cat person, I say that I am neither. I am a rabbit person through and through. This does not mean that I do not enjoy cat or dog people, it just seems that I get along with the personality types of people who like or who have had a rabbit companion sometime in their lifetime. Once I find out someone has owned a rabbit, it explains a lot about the nature of our friendship.
I've had bunnies. One called Cynthia- she was all light, smokey grey, with dark grey nose, ears, and a dark grey badge shaped patch in the middle of her back.
Peter rabbit was the most social. He wanted to be friends with cats. Very, very aggressive bunny too.
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What I hate about aging is my fingernails and facial hair growing. My nails at least grow at a constant rate, but they never fricken stop! And if I don't cut them they simply become sharper and sharper, because that must be how they wear as they grow. Hate them!
Facial hair changes speed to its own rhythm. I can avoid shaving for 5 days till I look scruffy sometimes, other times it's only a single day!
The hair on my head is getting longer though! No big deal for most people, but mine has always stopped just past the shoulders and no more. But now it keeps going! I only brush it while washing it, when using conditioner. -stops it breaking etc.
Man, I'm really being old and booring now…
Speaking of old and hair though, my grandfather on my mum's side went bald on top quite young and stayed that way till he got into his late 60s, then his hair came back again. When he died in his 90s he had more hair than in his 30s!
- this was something I only discovered after he died. I was talking to my mum about him and she always remembered him being bald on top, but I always remembered him with hair there… so we looked through old photos, and sure enough as he got older his hair started to come back, very strange and X-files type photo survey! And no, it wasn't a wig or impalnts etc, just his own old man snow white hair on his own liverspotted scalp.
I've never had a bunny, though I had a whole eye to eye conversation with one at a petstore once. It was a Lionhead bunny. I had never even heard of one before, they are the cutest little things. I wanted to take it home but the house is kind of full with two dogs, two fish and (soon to be) three cats.
ozoneocean wrote:"Facial hair changes speed to its own rhythm. I can avoid shaving for 5 days till I look scruffy sometimes, other times it's only a single day!"
It was for this reason that I wondered why men have not thought about waxing their faces more often. It would definitely cut down on having to shave daily, leaves the face smoother and not like sandpaper. Also, no cuts, blood or problems with razor burn.
Oh, and waxing does hurt, but ten minutes of pain is worth three months of not having to shave. Of course, ripping the hair out of the follicle gives rise to the chance that the hair will never grow back again and beards are awesome. There is also the idea that having the ability to grow a beard is manly and waxing takes away that masculinity like Delilah took away Samson's hair.
Katch wrote:"I've never had a bunny, though I had a whole eye to eye conversation with one at a petstore once. It was a Lionhead bunny. I had never even heard of one before, they are the cutest little things."Yes, I have had eye to eye conversations in pet stores. One with an adorable Shih Tsu and another with an Oranda goldfish.
I personally would love to have bunnies. Just one slight problem… last time I got one the neighborhood dogs got pretty obsessed with trying to get into the cage, and trying to get into the house when I kept it inside. And one day they did finally break in and…
I think before I get another bunny I'm going to get out some very thick rebar and a welding torch.
O… kay… I never knew the Amish need protection from the outside world. And that the so called "Amish Mafia" is what does this. I always thought the Amish did what they did because that's the way they are. Or maybe I'm reading this sort of thing wrong. hmm….
@kawaii
Your rabbit could be the twin of my Romeo! She even has the funny head fluff. Very cute!
Rabbits are definitely something special when it comes to pets. I used to work in a pet supply store and sometimes had people tell me they were thinking about getting a rabbit. I always started off by saying that they are not like owning a hamster…that seems to be what people assume.
The great thing about rabbits is that their ability to express themselves like other animals through vocalizing, body language etc is kind of limited. So they let you know how they're feeling through actions, which makes them both delightful and a huge pain. When bunnies are happy they run in circles around your feet, literally jump for joy and bump noses. When they're upset they thump and throw things. And when they're bored they just eat everything you own.
@ozone
Romeo thinks he is a cat.
Also, my mom grew two inches after giving birth to me. Bodies definitely do weird things sometimes.
ozoneocean wrote:Kitty Baker wrote:
Just got a bamboo splash. here's my first attempt at digital art.
Pretty great job!!!!
Thanks! still working hard on getting used to this program!
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