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ozoneocean wrote:
My girlfriend and I have broken up :(
We were together for almost a year…
It hurts, but it's probably for the best. Our personalities and habits didn't match very well.
elektro wrote:
I started posting on an Autism forum. Not that I've ever showed it for the most part, but I'm on the spectrum and I've had some struggles with it lately, so I wanted to find a community of people like myself.
Genejoke wrote:
You probably found a lot on here, I have aspergers, as does my eldest.
Genejoke wrote:elektro wrote:You probably found a lot on here, I have aspergers, as does my eldest.
I started posting on an Autism forum. Not that I've ever showed it for the most part, but I'm on the spectrum and I've had some struggles with it lately, so I wanted to find a community of people like myself.
There's a huge danger when seeing any show about any illness and believing you have any number of the symptoms shown.
However the same symptoms are present in any number of states that aren't on the spectrum. Social anxiety is a part of aspergers as well as of any number of anxiety behaviors. Stubbornness could be on the spectrum or someone could just be obstinate.
One has to be careful.
bravo1102 wrote:
There's a huge danger when seeing any show about any illness and believing you have any number of the symptoms shown.
However the same symptoms are present in any number of states that aren't on the spectrum. Social anxiety is a part of aspergers as well as of any number of anxiety behaviors. Stubbornness could be on the spectrum or someone could just be obstinate.
One has to be careful.
My sister has it in her head that I'm autistic. She made me paranoid for a bit because, while I am not on the spectrum near as I can tell, I am a self-diagnosed hypochondriac. I am also unabashedly "weird." I think my sister thinking of me as on the spectrum helps her excuse my refusal to be "normal."
I was dangerously starting to show OCD symptoms a few years ago. I hit a point where I once turned around halfway to work and drove home to check my door lock for the seventh time – knowing it was the seventh time and still did it just to make my brain shut up and leave me alone for the day. I was twenty minutes late to work. That was the day, I admitted to myself there was a problem and devised some coping mechanisms. I don't have nearly so many visions of catastrophes. (I also got a dog, so door locks are less of an obsession these days, especially at night. No way is my door opening without me knowing about it.)
When I was young I always hid the fact that I was autistic. Often times hated it. But later in my teens (about 18 and 19) I slowly began to make the transition of accepting as who I was and screwing off anyone who had a problem with it. I was bullied relentlessly because I was always called the Special Ed kid, called retard, and all of that mess. I had a small circle of friends who would back me up though. For those who are creators and who are on the spectrum, accept it.
It makes me laugh when people complain about labels. Asd/ADHD/bpd or whatever. The stuff like, "we didn't have labels when I was a kid," or "I'm a person not a label" "labels are meaningless"
The labels serve a purpose, it's not about pigeonholing people, just understanding their difficulties or why they don't function the same as neurotypical people. If I'd been diagnosed as a kid my life could have been a hell of a lot easier, instead I had to figure things out the hard way.
Genejoke wrote:
It makes me laugh when people complain about labels. Asd/ADHD/bpd or whatever. The stuff like, "we didn't have labels when I was a kid," or "I'm a person not a label" "labels are meaningless"
The labels serve a purpose, it's not about pigeonholing people, just understanding their difficulties or why they don't function the same as neurotypical people. If I'd been diagnosed as a kid my life could have been a hell of a lot easier, instead I had to figure things out the hard way.
So, yeah, labels help. I am shocked at how many people in older generations maintain an "if it was good enough for me" attitude rather than "I want our kids to have a better life." In reality, there are no "good old days." It's an illusion viewed through a nostalgia lens.Yeah, I think for a lot of people, the "good old days" just happen to be when they were young, regardless of whether they happened to be the Great Depression, W.W.II…or the Black Death ! B-)
BearinOz wrote:So, yeah, labels help. I am shocked at how many people in older generations maintain an "if it was good enough for me" attitude rather than "I want our kids to have a better life." In reality, there are no "good old days." It's an illusion viewed through a nostalgia lens.Yeah, I think for a lot of people, the "good old days" just happen to be when they were young, regardless of whether they happened to be the Great Depression, W.W.II…or the Black Death ! B-)
There are 20y.o.s who will look back on 2020/Covid19/Lockdown the same way, in 50 years. Haha !
I have worked with students on all levels of the autism spectrum as an IA/BI (instructional assistant, behavior intervention aide) and each one is a unique experience that allows me to reflect and understand my own quirks and idiosyncrasies in ways I never challenged before. I love learning multiple ways of communication when a student has non-verbal autism; I can understand the frustration when a student picks up a chair and throws it at a back wall when they are upset about being misunderstood or bored with the lesson; I listen and engage on a topic when a student has studied and wants to talk about a new idea in full detail; and I am a lot more sensitive to the tiniest of noises (the squeak in a cabinet, the sound of metal against metal) and I have almost every device to dim lights, block out harsh sounds, lessen pungent smells, and gravitate to soft, and smooth textures of clothing.
Schools have started focusing more on special needs education because a bill was voted on the district to spend more money on Special Ed intervention programs and less on Gifted and Talented Education programs. In the sixties, if a student was book-smart, had perceived above-average intelligence, and was socially awkward, they would have been labeled a nerd. Today, that same person might be given an IEP with Asperger’s Syndrome and placed into a special day class that teaches socially accepted forms of communication and how to have conversations with peers.
I have thought about this a lot, and while there is no perfect human, this aim for normalcy is so relative to the person we are standing next to at any given point. Around my college friends, I am seen as changing topics often, possibly interrupting conversations and cutting people off, but around work colleagues, I might seem above-average intelligent and socially awkward. It is what you think it is around each given audience.
I love watching interviews with Elon Musk because he is naturally a very intelligent human being and you can tell he is thinking about a million thoughts at any given second, but when giving a complete answer, you hear him stutter and act reflective before the interviewer, which is a very human quality. Does someone like Musk fall on the higher-functioning end of the spectrum? It is quite possible, but does it even matter anymore? He is one of the most intelligent sentient human beings on the planet.
I have given myself a diagnosis (as I have never been officially diagnosed by a psychiatrist), and I always come to the conclusion that all those quirks that make me different are the same things that make me unique and interesting. If I was indeed a neuro-typical person, while socially acceptable and the norm, life would be a lot more boring. So accept it, it is life, ten-thousand years ago, our ancestors were caveman, and we have evolved, and our species will continue to evolve. There still is no example of a “perfect” human being.
I don't think Elon Musk is particularly above average in intelligence Kawaii.
Rather, he made a lot of money on a really basic, obvious web-app (Paypal), which wasn't visionary or clever, insightful or groundbreaking… just a simple money transfer system where the money is made by charging a little for use. It's a system as old as time. The reason for the success is that they simply got in first with the best, most universal solution at the time.
His Tesla stuff, Hyperloop and rocket projects are the result of him investing his money in "visionary" future style projects and paying for the right tech and people to work on it. None of that tech was groundbreaking or new, it's just existing tech that needed investment to get better- investment by someone rich enough not to mind making a loss.
Bill Gates is a good comparison- he made his fortune from a simple business operating system and office programs that turned into the world default for computing for many years, now he invests his fortune in life saving medical programs, paying the experts to do the work. Investing in things that need money but aren't profit making.
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Aaaaanyway, People often need to find their groove. It can be very hard to navigate the trecherous waters of social expectations and communication
The latest medication my cat is on to try to control stomatitis costs $50 per week.
It has thus far not reduced inflammation at all.
He has at least two to four more weeks before his re-examination and when we can schedule surgery. Which will be expensive af, but so is medication, and none of the medication has worked.
Charging it all to credit because I have no idea how I'm going to pay for it, but he's my cat, and I'm going to take care of him come hell or high water.
True, true, true about Musk @Oz. He does seem to come up with Big Picture ideas like: let’s dig holes in the ground and create a transportation system for elites and call it Boring Company, but once the company starts up, he finds the right engineer who can make the plans a reality through logistical planning, inventions and a team of more engineers. He is the leadership style of an “East”, which means he dreams BIG, develops the blueprints of an idea and finds the right person to manage it. He’s knows how to sell the look and feel of the future with Tesla cars and the new SpaceX uniforms, but what I love most are his fears of the inevitable Artificial Intelligence battle we will all be facing and escaping to Mars.
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My shipment of Linen-Cotton blend blazers arrived today, just in time for the start of Summer. 🤍🤍🤍 I absolutely adore the feel and smell of fresh linen (flax) and want to be surrounded by it at all times.
ozoneocean wrote:Yeah, can't beat linen. I recently got some casual drawstring linen pants online, and was really happy with them….unfortunately, I later ordered shirts from the same mob, and even @ 5XL, they weren't big enough - so they're off with my cleaner to Vinnie's/Salvo's or wherever. O.K. $55 down the drain, but someone will benefit.
I love linen too :)
I need some linen trousers. I got some for my last trip to Greece but They were an artificial linen I think. A pretty good fake but the fabric pilled, which I haven't seen real linen do :(
Upon rereading, I found out my city ordinance does not prohibit roosters. So my missexed chick Fred is "legal," and I can keep him guilt-free. The chicks are three months old and starting to develop grown-up voices.
(One of my next door neighbors and I talked about it, and they are fine with him. The other neighbor has his own rooster.)
I've spent the last couple of days making this. I started by experimenting with a 4-track cassette recorder, played the finished tape backwards, messing around while digitizing it, then later digitizing old audio and VHS tapes laying around the house and mixing it together. Basically trying to make something that would rate a 9.0 on the Weird-shit-o-meter.
Ghosts of the Past
elektro wrote:
Ghosts of the Past
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